Depression, We Muslims will remind each other of the religion and useful things, this is a requirement of faith. This work is done by loving Allah, by loving others. We know that Allah is the owner of all guidance, He is beautiful, and He is tender-hearted. Therefore, if we want to advise someone, it should be done with love. We should not give unnecessary and unwanted advice to someone we do not know; it has to be done with wisdom. However, if we see those whom we know, know, and love, Depression, and suffering from sadness, then we should consciously be by their side. We should not say things that will hurt them. Rather, we should speak intelligently and lovingly about things that will benefit them. Many times, people get the right understanding when they are in the presence of close people without advice, sometimes they may have to scold them. This balance is possible only when we know and love that person.
The Depression
However, when someone is depressed, their condition is not under their control, so they suffer from depression. We should be consciously by their side, and we should also pay attention to advice. At least we should not say things that might hurt them more. The things that we usually say to a person suffering from Depression, but which can also hurt them, are:
1) “Look at the good things in life”
He is depressed because he cannot see the good things. If we say this, he may be judged unfairly. He may think that he does not see the good things in life and that he is ungrateful. This hint can make him lose confidence in himself. We will give this advice only if the person understands it…
2) “Be patient, be patient!”
If someone is Depression, if we keep telling him “Be patient… Be patient” – many times this is a kind of judgment. This is being said in a way that indicates that he is not being patient, that he is impatient. Maybe he doesn’t need to hear this now, but if you tell him something that will increase his trust in Allah and himself, he might be patient in the hope of receiving a reward from Allah…
3) “Say this prayer, say that prayer…”
Saying and remembering Allah certainly calms the heart of a person and brings peace of mind. Allah says in the Quran – “Those who believe and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allah; know that it is in the remembrance of Allah that hearts find rest.” [Surah Ar-Ra’d, verse 28]
But when someone is Depression, if we go to him and say, “Say this prayer, say that prayer…” then there might be a clear judgment that a depressed person doesn’t pray. He might not even have that much knowledge! Allah knows the heart, there is no need to say a prayer at all, right? If we understand this and sympathize with him and put something in front of him as a more beneficial method of prayer, God knows, maybe he will be interested and ask Allah for the Arabic prayers. But our behavior must be balanced and loving.
8) “Oh, leave these Depression, they are not a problem..”
It is a very bad thing to say this. A person who has not suffered from depression cannot even imagine what it feels like. In today’s social life, it grips people in various ways. However, believers, God willing, will be able to come out easily. Keeping this belief in themselves, it is necessary to stand next to another brother/sister and extend a hand of generosity to him. But when these feelings are asked to be blown away, he will become narrow-minded, feel worse, and feel humiliated. Maybe we can make him join him in a more beautiful work that benefits people, where he will not have the opportunity to be busy with his Depression feelings.
5) “People are in a much worse situation than you…”
This is very common among us. Maybe when we are careless, we say to others, “Look, you are so upset because of this, when you see that the people of Yemen are starving. Be happy even if you look at them.” — This is not right. The children of Yemen are not able to eat, this is a very big truth. But that does not mean that the hardships in our lives are false. Rather, loving others paves the way for us to love ourselves. The desire to do good makes our hearts open and increases our faith. So instead of saying that, we should say something in a way that makes a person forget his hardships and become enthusiastic about good deeds, trust in Allah, and get busy with the work of life.
In short, we should consciously spread love to people. Sometimes, many of us just need love and compassion. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala grant us good morals, and a good understanding of religion, and grant us Jannatul Firdaus.
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